Last weekend, Mike and I attended two weddings – in fact, we even had parts to play in one of the celebrations. Mike was the best man, and I was in charge of not losing the rings, so I think we know whose job was the most important.
Getting married is a major transition in life, even more significant than starting school, graduating or landing your first job. A wedding ceremony is a commitment by you and your partner to work side-by-side while making future plans and decisions. It’s a heady concept to consider that your actions, whether good or bad, will directly affect another person.
Decisions made during the decade of your 20s, quite possibly, will affect the rest of your life. At 25 years old, I often feel perched at a crossroads. In some ways, I feel older than my years, considering I have a career, nice home and commitments, and in other ways, I feel I’m struggling to make sense of the world. I look around at my peers and some are married with families, while others are living in their parents’ basements. There isn’t one correct way to ‘do’ life and there isn’t a timetable for maturing. Even though their lives look incredibly different, my friends at both ends of the spectrum are great people.
Some days I walk up to every baby I see and want to hold it, and the rest of the time I wonder how I’m able to keep my dog alive!
In this age of social media and over sharing (guilty!), it’s hard not to compare your life to others. If you look at my Instagram, I appear to be adventurous and carefree, constantly out hiking with my dog. But, if you truly know me, you see I spend more time just vacuuming up dog hair and doing dishes.
We have what seems to be intimate looks into people’s lives and situations, but it’s important to remember they are only sharing what they want us to see.
Maybe I’m in the place I need to be at this point in my young life. I’m not ready to get married, but I also don’t feel the need to run back to my parents’ basement. I’m still trying to figure out where I fall on the maturity continuum. I guess I still have some growing up to do … but I am looking forward to it!